Forget FOMO

As I’ve mentioned in my November Intentions post, Eventbrite has recently introduced me to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)’s worst enemy…GOMO:  Going Out More Often.  With their inspiration, I set out to GOMO for a few weeks (and, *spoiler alert* for long afterward).

First of all, check out Eventbrite’s own take on GOMO here.  What strikes me the most in this idea is the idea of valuing experience over material objects (read more from Eventbrite on that topic here).  This idea has been bouncing around the internet, almost solely in relation to millennials, but it didn’t really hit me until I came across GOMO.  So that’s where I focused:  in going out more often, I strove to experience things rather than buy lots (even if #NoSpendNovember didn’t work out).

GOMO Case #1:  NYC

If you read about my New York City trip, you may have noticed that I didn’t feature any purchases in the post (besides food).  That’s because I DIDN’T BUY ANYTHING.  Not at Tiffany’s, not even with the credit card.  And you know what?  I had an amazing time.

GOMO Case #2:  Paint Night

My roommate invited me to check out a Paint Night on campus, and after too many terrible weeks for both of us (and with the promise of free alcohol {thanks, host provider!}), we trotted across a frigid campus (which has proceeded to get even colder….) to paint some pictures.  The hosts put a nightscape up on the projection screen and we all tried to imitate it, with various adjustments suiting our personal style.  You can see that mine and my roommates are vaguely similar but totally different at the same time!


GOMO Case #3:  Wine Tasting

About a week after turning 21, I still hadn’t had a legal drink.  My best friend simply couldn’t stand for this and took me to the local wineries for a sangria at the first, then a super-classy tasting at the second.


While I tasted the “Black Magic” blackberry wine, Shelby had a truffle of the same flavour!

GOMO Case #4:  Halloween Party

This one was technically in October, but it’s too great (and this selfie is far too priceless) to not include.  My boss and good friend had a party at his house, which just so happened to coincide with the evening before my birthday (and his father-in-law’s birthday!).  Between falling totally in love with his cat and eating snacks shaped like mummies, the night was a great success.  I even got to hang out with his wax figure of John Ericsson (yes, we’re history nerds).  To top it all off, another guest brought a whistle as part of his costume…that just so happened to be used on the RMS Titanic.  Cue fangirling on my part.



I was Queen Elsa, not that I’m not always royalty. 😉


Overall?  My GOMO experiment was a great success.  Share your GOMO moments below or on our social media pages, and tag along as we keep up the good GOMO work! Inspired even beyond that? Try hosting a fitness class, fundraiser, concert, or your own creative event and sell your tickets with Eventbrite!

How to Have an Awesome *Vegan* Thanksgiving

For most Americans, Thanksgiving is a time of friends, family, and food.  For vegans like me, the food part can be a bit complicated—after all, the star of the meal is supposed to be a dead bird!

Nevertheless, with a little planning and preparation, vegans can enjoy Thanksgiving with the best of them.

Help with the cooking.

Don’t expect someone else to do all the work in accommodating you AND whoever else is coming for dinner.  Not hosting yourself?  Offer to prepare a veg-friendly side or meat alternative.  Sam at It Doesn’t Taste Like Chicken has some awesome options, like these “8 Traditional Thanksgiving and Christmas Sides Made Vegan.”

It’s not that hard to replicate your favorite family recipe—almond milk and egg replacers and Earth Balance exist for a reason!  Many times, it’s the traditional methods that require these things, and a simple substitute is barely noticeable.

For the “meat and potatoes” portion of the feast, there are plenty of meat-free options available, if you want to substitute it (some people prefer to fill up on veggies and the like instead, and that’s totally okay too!):  check out Tofurky for everything from deli slices to Holiday roast!



Be prepared for the comments.

And don’t let them bother you.  Dad, Aunt Martha, and Uncle Joe might not understand  your reasons for not partaking of the “normal” food.  You’ll likely hear “oh, just eat it!” a few times.  It’s okay.  Take a deep breath and eat your non-guilt.


Remember the “True” Thanksgiving.

You know when Christmas comes to town and people get all huffy about commercialization and the true meaning of Christmas?  Do that for Thanksgiving.  There’s more to it than food and heading to Target two hours before they open.


If you still need some inspiration, be sure to check out this AMAZING Vegan Thanksgiving rap!   Most importantly, remember that I’m thankful for you all 🙂

‘When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.’

This year’s New York City trip was unofficially endorsed by How I Met Your Mother.  My best friend and I (note:  her Facebook album chronicaling the trip is titled “That time me and my platonic soulmate spent the day in the city.”  Platonic soulmate right here.  That’s me!”) spent the day travelling up and down the streets of Manhattan, getting lost a few times thanks to incompetent GPS (fun fact:  Central Park apparently confuses Google Maps profusely), stalking dogs, and compiling awesome quotes for posterity’s sake.  

After a lengthy, nap-filled bus ride, our day started off with Apple Maps (I’d just had to reset my phone, so pre-installed navigation app it was) deciding we weren’t actually walking and therefore that we had to follow the one-way streets several blocks away before arriving at our much-anticipated breakfast spot, a little vegan cafe called VLife (read about my first foray here!) .  With limited confidence, I decided I apparently knew the city better than the navigator and adjusted (admittedly using said map as backup, just in case).  We finally arrived at Vlife, anxiously awaiting food, when we realised that its weekend hours began at 11…another ten minutes or so.  With so much of our excitement based on eating at this specific place, we decided to wait it out, checking out the local Pret A Manger and some intense gothic architecture in the meantime (my art professor would later get to what about my lecturing Shelby [the other platonic soulmate] on flying buttresses—she never expected a spontaneous lesson in art history).  

The buttresses though. FLYING buttresses.

Finally, we made it into VLife, the first customers in just as they turned over their “open” sign a few minutes past eleven.  The big deal?  VEGAN BREAKFAST SANDWICHES.  Do you know how long it had been since I’d had a breakfast sandwich?  Me neither.  Regardless, this one was SO worth the wait.  Made with tofu (“egg”), veggie ham, and “cheese” and topped with a creamy sriracha mayo, it was a pretty perfect sandwich.  At Shelby’s brilliant suggestion, we also picked up an order of “Noble Nuggets,” which somehow replicate meat without all the grossness.  Bonus:  they came with ranch dressing!  Long before veganism and dairy allergies, I was the kind of person who put ranch on almost everything.  This reminder of it’s wonderfulness (in cruelty-free form) was pure happiness.  

From here, we headed uptown toward Central Park and Fifth Avenue, aka Tiffany’s, aka the primary reason I’m in love with this city.  Of course, we had to stop to see the sights along the way.  

One of these sights was the Empire State Building, at which we were those tourists with the selfie sticks—this was a therapeutic vacation, no shame y’all.  One of the men hocking touristy things outside stared chatting with me;  once it was clear we knew where we were going (when we weren’t utilising Google/Apple Maps), it turned into “oh, are you engaged?” (as I had my Tiffany ring on my right hand).  “…but is there someone in your life?”  

“Yes, there is,” interjected my soulmate/knight in shining armour.  The man pointed us toward Central Park (“just in case”) and we continued on our way.  

Continuing our tourism trend, I carried an almost empty Starbucks cup and a large snickerdoodle until we got to Tiffany’s.  What better way to express my appreciation than to recreate the iconic Audrey Hepburn scene?  Id berated poor Shelby with Breakfast at Tiffany’s facts every few minutes for our entire commute (to which she interjected Deep Blue Something lyrics), and now she became my photographer.  

“And I said what about eating a cookie awkwardly posed outside of Tiffany’s?”

We stepped into a few more stores, but eventually made it to Central Park.  Neither of us had really explored the park in all it’s glory, so we were excited to wander, even if we were about to walk a few thousand more steps than my already injured leg should have handled (heck, we’d long since surpassed that point).  

My biggest goal for this stop was to snap photos from one of my other nerdish obsessions—The Last Five Years. Unfortunately (for them), they blocked me from posting on their social media after I shared an earlier post I’d written gushing about the show (only a little bitter there).  Nonetheless, I remain a fan and dutifully passed by the Beresford, San Remo, and the Dakota, even struggling past the still-undefined covering over half of the latter.  

We also spent a good half an hour looking for Strawberry Fields (strawberry fiiieeelds FOREVER), then another twenty or so looking for the IMAGINE mosaic.  Thank you, Beatles, for an extra couple thousand steps.  

Then we made our way to what was arguably the highlight of our plans—McGee’s Pub.  For those of you have seen How I Met Your Mother, this was the inspiration of the legen…dary MacLaren’s!

Now, as Shelby hasn’t yet turned 21, we were a little worried I wouldn’t be able to have my all-important HIMYM cocktail.  Luckily, the “Pizza Hut exception” apparently applied, and I got my Gay Pirate.  Believe it or not, this thing was STRONG.  

Cutting through Times Square Like good little tourists, we headed back to Penn Station.  Jumping just slightly out of the way, we grabbed some dessert and teas from VLife and Dunkin before boarding—a worthwhile time investment!  

Here’s to next year!

“Tell me, Princess, now when did you last let your heart decide?”

As those of you follow TO&E on social media already know (WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU DON’T FOLLOW US ON XYZ??? FIX IT NOW!), I’ve been accepted to study abroad in Bath, UK this upcoming spring!
If you’ve been around for a while, you know that that’s been *the* goal for basically forever.  You know, follow in Shakespeare’s footsteps, marry Prince Harry and live happily ever after (no, he’s not in a relationship.  He wouldn’t do that to me, least of all to be announced on my birthday.)?

Okay, so maybe my actual expectations aren’t quite that high.  But, I’ll be doing some absolutely amazing things that I never would have thought could have escaped my dreams!  Due to popular demand on Twitter, here are some of the highlights of my upcoming trip:

  • A week-long stay at Oxford.
    • Can we discuss the books at Univ for a moment?
    • The programme website states that “Breakfast is served daily in the Great Hall.”  You can’t tell me otherwise, I’m studying at Hogwarts next spring.
  • A stay at Stratford.
  • Possible maybe trip to Dublin.
    • Our actual course listing has yet to be announced, but one of my top choices offers a weekend trip to Dublin.  If you’ve been around awhile, you know I’m sliiiightly in love with Ireland, so I’m sure you can sense my excitement. If nothing else?  The Dublin Writers Museum.
  • Pseudo-Rome

Can you tell I’m excited?  Because I’m pretty darn excited.  In fact, I’m so excited that my wonderful Mommy put together a gift basket of wonderfully British goods for my birthday.


My favorite part?  This super fuzzy happy little blanket.

Have any travel or study abroad tips?  Let me know!

Monthly Goals Collab: November

Angela and Jazmine, of The Clutter Box and Fairy Lights & Dreams, respectively, came up with the brilliance of a Monthly Goal Collaboration, and I’m thrilled to be joining them and the other bloggers yet again this month!

An InLinkz Link-up

As you may have notice, my recent hiatus kept me MIA for October’s Monthly Intentions collab.  But if you think aaaaaaaall the way back to September, you can recall some of my goals for that month, and it’s easy enough to reflect on the two.  

So, looking back on September/October:

Some high points:

  • My classes have intertwined in some odd way, despite all being rather strange in their concepts (at least in comparison to my normal classwork).
  • Work has continued to go amazingly!  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve told my bosses that even when everything else seems to fall apart, I’m bound to enjoy my day at work.
  • My birthday!  I turned 21 at the end of October.  Yep, legal alcohol consumption.  Nope, I haven’t had any since.
  • Halloween!!! My favorite holiday was highlighted with a costume party at my boss’s house.  If you follow TO&E on Instagram, you got to see a peek of my Elsa costume!

Needs improvement:  

  • My health wasn’t the best for these two months, topped off with a stretch of seemingly endless bronchitis.  Of course, this led to a lot of general unhappiness, which is hardly the best place to be.
  • Doing things.  Health issues and sadness don’t make for a very active Jules.  I haven’t been working out or participating in extracurriculars as much as I’d like, simply because I’m either too sick or outright lack the energy.  This includes the blog and friends, which hasn’t changed much since September, unfortunately!
  • Budgeting.  With some unexpected expenses appearing (hopefully with good news to come!), it’s been a struggle (especially at the sort of school where everyone seems to own three Mercedes).  Bills are very real.

So, without further ado:  goals for November.



Eventbrite recently introduced me to the concept of GOMO, or Getting Out More Often, the rival of the infamous FOMO.  I’m planning to do a full post on this later in the month, but for now, know that I fully intend to leave the apartment, do things, and meet people.  First stop:  New York City with my best friend this past weekend.  Details to come!


I can almost sense the blog’s melancholy.  This can’t be.  Social media, posting, and general engagement will be improved this month!


In the mindset of Thanksgiving, I’m going to make a conscious effort to be grateful for those good things in my life, especially when it’s hard to find them.  Family, cute dogs, cups of tea…these are the little things that make me happy.


“But Jules, you just said you spent the weekend in NYC….”  I know.  I allowed myself this day of retail therapy as it had been planned for months.  On a larger scale though, I’m purposefully cutting back this month—no spontaneous potato chips, no quick Starbucks run, no cute leggings just because they’re on sale.  Necessities.

So…here’s hoping the gals of this collab can keep my motivation high! Feel free to let me know if you have any tips!

“Tell the guards to open up the gates….”

“…It’s only for today, it’s agony to wait…tell the guards to open up the gates (the gates)…. For the first time in forever (don’t let them in, don’t let them see) I’m getting what I’m dreaming of (be the good girl you always have to be); a chance to change my lonely world (conceal), a chance to find true love (conceal, don’t feel, don’t let them know…). I know it all ends tomorrow, so it has to be today, ’cause for the first time in forever, for the first time in forever, nothing’s in my way!”  –For the First Time in Forever, Disney’s Frozen

For the first time in forever, I’m posting here on TO&E!


Things have been crazy the last several weeks, y’all.

  • My beloved fish, Bullet, passed away.
  • I dealt with a several-week long stretch of bronchitis and a subsequent cough that REFUSES TO LEAVE.
    • Just as I started to improve, my roommate developed pneumonia.  Our room may become a quarantine area, at this point.
  • My best friend went through a particularly horrible breakup (don’t even get me started on this guy, I may never stop telling you how terrible he is).
  • Migraines.  Joint pain.  And my doctor disappeared off the face of the earth.  Switching doctors is stressful, if you weren’t aware.
  • The uber-fun time of the semester in which everything is due at once and it’s all worth about 90% of your grade (or so it seems).
  • So many technology issues.  Phone, laptop, you name it.

I’m going to cut the list of sadness short, but to put it simply, life has not been fun.  To make it even better, blogging gets pushed to the wayside amid everything else.  That just makes things more sad.


I’m alive.

I’m (semi) functioning.

Most importantly?


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